In the article, the author shares Kabir's story, a man in his forties who experienced emotional and physical abuse during his arranged marriage. Despite being educated and successful, Kabir struggled to label his experiences as abuse due to societal norms that equate masculinity with strength. His wife's unpredictable behavior and emotional violence left him confused and ashamed, complicating his understanding of consent and obligation. Kabir faced disbelief from authorities when he sought help, highlighting how societal perceptions of masculinity can disqualify men from being seen as victims. After their separation, he began to explore his trauma and past experiences, including childhood abuse, which helped him connect the dots of his compliance in the abusive relationship. Ultimately, casual relationships provided him with a sense of agency and healing, contrasting sharply with his previous experiences. The article calls for a deeper reflection on how societal constructs shape both perpetrators and victims in abusive relationships.