In a recent column, a reader expresses uncertainty about their feelings for a work friend at a university, pondering whether their affection signifies romantic love or a close friendship. They enjoy spending time together and have developed a bond over months, but they also recognize imperfections in his behavior. Psychoanalytic psychotherapist Susanna Abse contributes to the discussion by highlighting that love can take many forms, from passionate relationships to more subtle connections. Abse challenges the reader to consider whether their feelings are purely platonic or if they include romantic desires, such as fantasizing about a sexual relationship. The reader is encouraged to reflect on their hesitance to explore these feelings further and to consider the potential risks and rewards of taking their relationship beyond friendship. Ultimately, the article emphasizes the importance of self-exploration in navigating complex emotions.