In a candid letter, a married man reveals his struggles with intimacy towards his wife, admitting to numerous affairs and one-night stands without complaints from partners. He expresses a sense of repulsion towards his wife, whom he sees more as a friend than a romantic partner. Despite their once passionate relationship, he now avoids intimacy and prefers to spend time away from her, even during a recent trip to Spain where he pursued a younger woman. Agony aunt Jane O'Gorman responds with tough love, urging him to reassess his priorities and invest time and effort into his marriage. She emphasizes the importance of honesty and suggests couples' therapy if he cannot overcome his feelings. The letter also reflects on the man's troubled upbringing, revealing a complex family history that may influence his current behavior. Additionally, another letter from a reader highlights a couple's conflict over living arrangements, underscoring the need for open communication and compromise in relationships.